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Is she saying no?

FireStorm005 asked:


I asked a question a few weeks ago about asking out my coworker, see here: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgV4i2m8JathrHRMswlEvFwjzKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20080402015955AA1gwBu. I did ask her to go dancing (swing lessons), but she had something else already planned at that time but said she’d love to at another time. I looked at the schedule for the lessons and let her know about the next one, but she said she may be busy again. I can’t tell if it really is a timing issue or if she just doesn’t want to go out.
I did not ask her specifically “will you go out with me”. I asked her to the dance lessons, which, about 30 seconds before I asked her to I asked if she liked dancing and she said she liked swing dancing.
Also, the lessons are 30 minutes, followed by a 2 hour 30 minute dance. Not really formal.

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5 Responses to “Is she saying no?”

  1. trippinupstairs on May 19th, 2009 10:49 am

    Leave the issue for a few weeks, then ask once more like ‘Hey, remember those dance lessions? Still up for it?’, if she pulls the same excuse, chances are she doesn’t want to go out with you, but it might not be that, maybe she just doesn’t like dancing?

    When your asking her, how about asking where she might like to go instead?

    Hope that helped!

  2. lucyr on May 20th, 2009 5:11 pm

    Swing lessons are pretty intense for a first date. Maybe you should ask her out for lunch or coffee. That can be planned last minute, and it’s alot less intimidating as a first date. If she declines that offer then she’s probably not interested. But it might turn out that she just legitimately couldn’t make the swing dancing lessons, in which case, GREAT!

  3. Jan on May 21st, 2009 12:10 pm

    from what u have described…she’s avoiding you but she still wants to be friends.
    but the question is: is she avoiding u bcs she doesnt like you or cus she’s against office romance .

    anyway, its not a good idea to go out with a coworker…im sure u can find someone else dear :)

  4. strawberryjam95 on May 24th, 2009 10:01 am

    swing … lessons?
    its hard 2 tell wot she means jus ask her

  5. One on May 24th, 2009 11:58 am

    Keep trying, the worst that can happen is that you get sued for harrassment.